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111407 -- Aqui', va
Jan. 20th, 2012 09:57 pm This was originally posted on Facebook.
We're tired of this. We truly are tired of this. We go through life with high expectations, put on us by the parents and people of the last generation. Do this, do that, they say, and you won't screw up. Fail and you will make your life a miserable hell. And so we follow the rules for a while until it starts to really take a toll. We start wondering, who truly are we? And it's when our personalities start to break away from these rules and limits that we start having problems. We get short fuses and can't stand not having things just handed to us, because we're too damn tired of working for everything. We've tried working and we haven't gotten anything out of it, so we're just going to stop. We care about other things, other more trivial things, things that are just things. You know what I'm talking about; they've been mentioned before by several people. But people mention these things that make life shallow and then all they do is wallow in their pity; they don't do anything about it.
It's time to stop this. The question is, of course, how do we stop such a thing? We feel powerless in our current situation and only continue to change the perception of our reality. It's okay to do bad on tests. We don't have to be better. And we become slaves to these rules and limits instead of the ones that our society creates for us. We have limits imposed on us, then we create our own limits. I'm not sure why. Maybe to make us feel superior, to not have to worry about "doing any better" than we are right now. Maybe because we're used to it, having these limits.
There are those who don't see the limits, which is a majority of the people here. There are those that see and don't do anything about it...that is almost worse than never seeing at all. People don't see that they have these limits. Then there are people who create way too many limits and build a nice fence around themselves (come on, you know who you are). They may have different reasons for doing this, but it all boils down to fear. If I put my fence down, it my limits disappear, I'm afraid I might do something bad. I'm afraid I might be condemned. I'm afraid of the expectations that other people will have of me if I start doing things that I never imagined were possible. I'm afraid of failure.
Well, I got news for you. Bad is rather relative depending on your culture, but you can't know what's good unless you know what bad is. And the best way to experience bad, unfortunately, is to get knee-deep in it. There's no way to avoid it. If you try to be perfect, you're essentially screwing yourself over. If you're afraid of going to Hell, well, I got more important news for you, but that's going to be saved for a later date (unless you wanna hear my testimony right here, right now). Jesus is there for you; okay, done with that. People will always have expectations of you; that's what created the limits in the first place, remember? As long as you forsake the expectations that are placed on yourself, you will want to be able to do more. We do more if we are not required, if people aren't breathing down our necks. And as far as failure goes? Everybody fails once in a while, but it is important to see failure as not a failure but try to find another way of doing something.
Back in the day (yes, THAT back in the day) she used a story against me. Once upon a time, there was a butterfly who was captured in a jar. She flew and flew and flew but could not get out, exhausted, she fell to the bottom of the jar, trapped. The story goes on to say that the butterfly had to find another way out, to see things differently, but to my mind, it was warped that I shouldn't even try. Perhaps we need to stop beating against the lid of the jar, exhausting ourselves with this crazy life, searching for something and something and something and JUST SCREAM FOR SOMEONE, ANYONE, TO UNSCREW THE LID OF THIS JAR!
And then when they do, to never return to the jar...never.
...I don't know where I was going with this...
We're tired of this. We truly are tired of this. We go through life with high expectations, put on us by the parents and people of the last generation. Do this, do that, they say, and you won't screw up. Fail and you will make your life a miserable hell. And so we follow the rules for a while until it starts to really take a toll. We start wondering, who truly are we? And it's when our personalities start to break away from these rules and limits that we start having problems. We get short fuses and can't stand not having things just handed to us, because we're too damn tired of working for everything. We've tried working and we haven't gotten anything out of it, so we're just going to stop. We care about other things, other more trivial things, things that are just things. You know what I'm talking about; they've been mentioned before by several people. But people mention these things that make life shallow and then all they do is wallow in their pity; they don't do anything about it.
It's time to stop this. The question is, of course, how do we stop such a thing? We feel powerless in our current situation and only continue to change the perception of our reality. It's okay to do bad on tests. We don't have to be better. And we become slaves to these rules and limits instead of the ones that our society creates for us. We have limits imposed on us, then we create our own limits. I'm not sure why. Maybe to make us feel superior, to not have to worry about "doing any better" than we are right now. Maybe because we're used to it, having these limits.
There are those who don't see the limits, which is a majority of the people here. There are those that see and don't do anything about it...that is almost worse than never seeing at all. People don't see that they have these limits. Then there are people who create way too many limits and build a nice fence around themselves (come on, you know who you are). They may have different reasons for doing this, but it all boils down to fear. If I put my fence down, it my limits disappear, I'm afraid I might do something bad. I'm afraid I might be condemned. I'm afraid of the expectations that other people will have of me if I start doing things that I never imagined were possible. I'm afraid of failure.
Well, I got news for you. Bad is rather relative depending on your culture, but you can't know what's good unless you know what bad is. And the best way to experience bad, unfortunately, is to get knee-deep in it. There's no way to avoid it. If you try to be perfect, you're essentially screwing yourself over. If you're afraid of going to Hell, well, I got more important news for you, but that's going to be saved for a later date (unless you wanna hear my testimony right here, right now). Jesus is there for you; okay, done with that. People will always have expectations of you; that's what created the limits in the first place, remember? As long as you forsake the expectations that are placed on yourself, you will want to be able to do more. We do more if we are not required, if people aren't breathing down our necks. And as far as failure goes? Everybody fails once in a while, but it is important to see failure as not a failure but try to find another way of doing something.
Back in the day (yes, THAT back in the day) she used a story against me. Once upon a time, there was a butterfly who was captured in a jar. She flew and flew and flew but could not get out, exhausted, she fell to the bottom of the jar, trapped. The story goes on to say that the butterfly had to find another way out, to see things differently, but to my mind, it was warped that I shouldn't even try. Perhaps we need to stop beating against the lid of the jar, exhausting ourselves with this crazy life, searching for something and something and something and JUST SCREAM FOR SOMEONE, ANYONE, TO UNSCREW THE LID OF THIS JAR!
And then when they do, to never return to the jar...never.
...I don't know where I was going with this...
